Ok so I am on a roll tonight.. and yes it is another baby related blog but this is something that has REALLY been a bugbear for me for the past 9 months. It is the ‘hospital of choice’ conversation.
It’s funny really when I think about it… when someone asks you what job you have and they may not respect your response they generally have enough decency to smile and respond positively never the less. Or perhaps a conversation comes up based on your choice of car or cocktail for the evening or even your sports team or political party of choice. All may spark conversations of opposing opinions, but generally it is safe to assume that most people’s opinion voiced is in respect of the other’s.
What fascinates me is the exception to the rule that seems to exist when it comes to pregnancy conversations. Everyone has an opinion and very little is it respectful of your opinion or decision. This comes in varying topics from the choice of baby seat brand to breastfeeding to … the one that gets me the most agitated…. the choice of hospital!
So I am screaming it loud from the clouds now I AM GOING TO LOGAN HOSPITAL! Yes the Logan Hospital that is situated in .. you guessed it – the stereotyped dodgy Logan, with the longest waiting room in the world for the emergency department and with some less than appetizing patients hanging around. But hey let’s face it, if we are in hospital, no matter the suburb, we are hardly going to look like we are about to enter a fashion contest are we?
The reactions I have had to this consist of: ’eugghhh’ **with a screwed up look on face like she’s just eaten a lemon** Oh not Logan? Are you sure? or ” Why Logan” ” Don’t you have private health cover” and so it goes on… I think only twice have I had a positive response and that was from friends who have actually given birth there. So Every time the dreaded question comes up I am prepared with my bullet point of justifying responses:
- It’s close to home
- It actually has a really good reputation for their birthing program
- I have been doing the midwife program which I have been very impressed with (which is the truth!)
- I know lots of people who have had children there and have said the midwives were great
- Something can go wrong at every hospital, you just need to trust the professionals you are being treated by on the day… etc etc
You know what bugger the justification responses – I am so over it. The next time someone else asks me what hospital I am going to I am going to respond with ” Oh hospital, you actually have to go to hospital to have a baby.”
And if you are the person asking the questions to any mother, perhaps be a bit more considerate next time you pass judgement so openly about one of their responses.